You're right, I need to learn to snake the drain and tell him that coming over for piddly stuff needs to be prearranged. Him coming over can be hugely disruptive, the dig goes insane for 30 minutes, D is talking a mile a minute because she's not sure when he'll say, "gotta go" and he's throwing questions at me about this and that. It just [censored] the life out of me and it's only 30 minutes or so.
Anyway, back to ME.
I don't want him to have any more of me. That's tough because he's rather manipulative (though he doesn't see this about himself). I don't want my anger to be a tie between us. I have to let it go. It's doing nothing for me but adding to my justification of being reactive and let's face it, there's no justification for that.
I feel like I'm back to taking small steps again but at least they're steps right?
The negativity seems to seep in. I need to find my PMA again.
