Funny, isn't it, GG? How we can be married for so long, and just accept so much of this as the normal give and take of a marriage. And then once the WAS forces us to reevaluate everything..... sometimes we start to see that they really weren't very good to us throughout the marriage. I still think I had a better marriage than most, there were lots of good parts; but truth be told, I spent a lot of it being unappreciated by an unhappy critical husband who couldn't appreciate what a gem he had. And I say that, not out of hubris, but because EVERY lover I have had since the divorce has said it to me!!!! Not one of them can figure out why any sane man would have let me go (yes, it's true, a couple of them let me go too, but only for legitimate reasons having nothing to do with me). My current boyfriend, The Keeper, says he wants to send my ex a thank you card. And he loves me exactly the way I am. it's a welcome change.
it's a welcome change.