Claire #10 -- Still DBing, I think

[Zues126]

Agreed. Letting go isn't easy but I think the M has to completely die for you to find your best self and rebuild. If WAH does the same and those roads cross, great. but that will never happen if we hang on tight. For me what makes it easier is knowing the M I wanted is already dead. An M where one spouse kicks another out, sees other people, etc, etc...that's not the M I wanted. So the M I wanted is already impossible. I will take care of myself and not get close with anyone, including WAS, until I'm over that loss, in a better place for myself, and have reason to believe my next R won't go down this road.