It doesn't feel like a fairytale anymore...

[Lifes Twists]

Live,

I think that all you have to explain to him is that unless you both agree to something that the court will probably split everything down the middle. You will give him half your retirement and he will give you half of his. Tell him you won't be bullied and won't allow his anger to influence things. He can either be willing to calmly discuss things and work out an agreement or the lawyers and court will do it for you at great expense. Pay now or pay later.