Hi Ganb8te, glad to hear you had a good weekend and are back on the PMA bandwagon. I am too! Funny how the rollercoaster keeps on rolling even when it is not as dramatic as it was at first.
I was just thinking... maybe Zues is right and you just need to keep ignoring him and focusing on yourself right now. I don't think it is really about your H not seeing you as a back up plan because he is not acting like he is trying to keep you around as plan B. He is just cutting you off and retreating to protect himself.
The reason I say maybe you should continue to stay dark is because I was reflecting on your situation while thinking about my previous boyfriend. After we broke up (his idea) he wanted to reunite. I did not. He would pester me and pursue me, it annoyed me every time I heard from him. But then at one point he just stopped calling and emailing me. Anyway, after a few months I realized I had not heard from him at all and it finally made me curious and want to contact him. But it did take a while for me to realize I hadn't heard from him.
I am not a patient person so the fact that it took me a few months to notice is surprising. Now, we didn't reunite, but I did finally start to wonder what he was up to. So what I am saying is, maybe the timeline we are on is not realistic for the WAS. Maybe it just takes them AGES to wake up and notice that you haven't been around in a while. Maybe it just takes a lot longer than we think.
Anyway, sorry for the long story. I am happy you had a nice weekend and I hope this week is terrific!
