Toots I remember the days when it had only been 4 or so months after BD for me. All I can say is that it takes time and moving towards a future for you while brushing away the fantasy that isn't. I spent way too much time dreaming of the fix or the silver bullet that would solve it. All of my truth about what happened in W life had to come from the grapevine too.

You need to recognize your value and believe in it. You don't need all the answers today. But believe that you have a future where you are happy. Work towards that and just take it one day at a time. Its a long road, but you will make it.


M: 43 W: 43
Married 6 yrs.
T: 7 yrs.
Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10