Brook, Heather is right. You are an amazing lady. You are so graceful and smart. You carry yourself with such dignity. I really admire that. It is something I struggle with.
I am glad you said something to your x about your kids, too. I am sure you didn't get a response to that. For me, I think it is perfectly fine to throw those comments out there once in awhile. They have this idea that what they are doing is fine, because if their selfish mentality. But sometimes throwing that in there may give them a second look. It does not change their mentality or behavior, but I think it is good for them to get checked for their behavior.
I know all about not wanting to say anything to look like a b, too. They have this amazing ability to twist and turn everything to make it about us. Well, silence is golden, and that rationed truth dart holds more power. Good for you.
I am glad you will have the opportunity to spend more time with your kids for the holidays. You are right, and he will never get this time back. But think of all the amazing memories you can make with your kids. They feel so safe and happy with you, Brook. They will forever remember that.
My dad wasn't always around when I was a kid. My mom did amazing things with us. She always made the holidays so special. I have wonderful memories and get all warm and fuzzy inside during those times. I don't look back with anger/resentment, or anything like that. I have great happy memories with my family, even if my dad wasn't there. (I have an amazing r with him now, btw) I am sharing this because I don't want you to worry about that with your girls. I am sure you find them happy and content with you. That is great, and that is all they will think about and remember- the happiness. Give them that and enjoy it. It is his loss...
