Just thought it was time for an update to my thread, not only so you guys know whats going on but because having this journal of this time has been so helpful to my healing.
I have never gone back and read all my threads but I do scan a thread or two from time to to time and I see such a change in myself. I also feel the love from you guys in every response again. Those replies and knowing I am not alone is so so huge.
Life is good. Girls and I enjoying a great fall. With Halloween and school and playdates and activities.
I still have not dated and am in no rush to do so. It would be nice to have a fellow on the side but I don't want a boyfriend. I really don't want to incorporate anyone into the great life my children and I have on our own.
My parents and my sister continue to be wonderful. My mom does 90% of the babysitting and is like a second mom to my girls when I work long hours. We are planning a trip to Disney this January, its gonna be awesome.
ExH continues to flail about.
Over Christmas break he should get the girls for a couple extra days and also one of his weekends falls over that time (the 27th & 28th) according to our divorce contract. But instead he just taking the girls over night Christmas eve then he brings the girls home to me and then he takes off for vacation until January 2nd.
Its really heartbreaking - how he has made himself so unavailable to them. Its been over 3 years of him running away from them.
When he told me about his vacation via email. I thought about it and I wrote back. "Just to confirm you are giving up your weekend with the girls as well as your vacation time with them as allowed for in our settlement. You are missing out on great ages"
I was really glad I wrote back. In my situation I have allowed him to walk all over me and I've allowed him to not take any responsibility for his actions. I have been so afraid that he would call me a b$tch that I have been frozen with fear.
I am happy to have the girls for 95% of the Christmas break but I want to at least speak out as to what he is doing.
Also this weekend d6 had a birthday party she wanted to go to. It was a pajama party in our neighborhood from 6p - 9p. ExH said no. Now that he has moved 40 mins away, bring D6 to a party like this becomes a pain especially since D4 will be going to bed at that time.
It was sad for me that she could not go cause I see this as just one of many things she will miss out on cause of the our sitch and cause he choose to move 40 mins away.
It is also what I predicted would happen when he moved.
Since he moved he has not been to the kids school. Not once. Breaks my heart that he is such a half a$$ dad.
Also just cause I need to record it somewhere - exH clothes continue to get more teenage even as he gets older.
Life is great
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
