BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

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Thanks GB! I'm glad to have the encouragement. It was a rough first conversation and W was not accepting what so ever of the idea of S and I moving further away. She decided to give me a speech about her not lying down for me making decisions on how our visitation is going to work anymore without saying anything. I don't get how she expects this to work. Its not like I am willing to live with her dropping by our home every day. And her current visitation is not outrageous. She has every other weekend Friday evening through Sunday evening plus one week night per week. Is that so abnormal?

Barry, I wanted to answer your questions...curious where you are going. With my current job and the one I will have there I'm able to provide 1 on 1 daycare, which is important to S because of his aversion to loud groups of kids. He gets scared in daycares with lots of kids because screaming upsets him (autism). I've even been looking to enroll him in a private school which I can afford. It takes up most of the money I should be saving but if it makes a difference in his advancement then I'm all for it. Also, my hours are set for this new job 8:30 - 5 while W is on a changing schedule ranging from anywhere between 6 am to 11 pm and some Saturdays. So for me its only after school care for a couple hours.

It would be about a 5 hour drive from where we live now so I'm assuming I would make the trip back one weekend a month and W would make the trip up to see S on another weekend a month. S is normally okay in the car but wants to get out like any other kid once cooped up past a few hours. Travel would not be fun and not my favorite option for him.

For me though a lot of this is about financial stability. Currently I pay for everything S needs. His ABA therapy, Summer Camp, toys, clothes, food, entertainment... W gives us less than $300 per month currently and thats it. She lives paycheck to paycheck because her money keeps going to things she wants to do with friends, plus drinking and smoking. If I don't have an income like I do today, we lose out on a lot. Plus I can't be sure whatever I end up having to do after this has a schedule that gives me time to get home at a fair hour every day for him.