My Wife Filed Today

[FunDad]

Not having the ring on has been a good thing I believe. I'm not sure if my wife noticed or not, but the extra detachment has helped me act more myself and less insecure around her. I'm not having to think about the detachment rules as much and I can actually focus on her needs more. She was having another rough day today. Our D13 is about to have a birthday and money is tight, more on her end than mind. So I purchased the gift, and I offered to help with other party things so my W can feel less depressed about it. She wanted to play some blame game with me and I simply said "I understand" and did not fight her back whatsoever. She was crying and depressed and I told her "I'm sorry" (no hugs or physical contact). She said things like I'm the "fun" parent now and that I need to accept responsibility and she was upset that I'm out playing drums so much. Anyway, to help cheer her up I shared an amazing beverage with her twice today that I know she cherishes (pumpkin spice cappuccino). I had loaded up a big thermos of it for a cold football game today that I took my boys to. Gave her some in the morning and asked if she wanted some this evening, and she drank all I had left. I also told her she looks pretty, she just got a short hair cut. I think it's good that her and I were talking about her feelings, and talking about ways that I can help. We don't talk about the D process, but it's still moving along. I'd love to marry her again. So, a good day I think. :-)