And now the email, which i fully expected (and will not respond to).....
'Our most important role together FOREVER is co-parents. That is something we will have in common no matter what. The kids need both of their parents.You say that I've missed out on the kids and you feel bad, but then you don't support me in seeing them.Regardless of how you feel about me, they need their mom.
D10 was just being D10 today. She is a moody 10 year old girl, pushing the boundaries with her parents. All I needed from you was reinforcement.You should have told her to go spend time with her mom. I would've pushed her to spend time with you had it been reversed... I let last night go since I've had them almost every weekend and I had to work this morning, but I wanted them today and tonight since you get to take them to zoo lights tomorrow night. I miss them so much it is killing me. Especially my daughter.
The kids will have SOME say in how the time is divided between us, but that doesn't mean they get to choose to stay wherever, whenever. They need structure and discipline. Change is tough. Them staying with me is only going to get easier over time if they do it more and more....
*I also want you to know that I hate all of this. I am suffering too. I do miss you,no matter how mean we continue to be to each other. I am riddled with guilt and other emotions. I was a sh!tty wife, and I need to let go of the guilt and anger that I have towards myself.. That's what me moving on is about...Not "me washing my hands of it all and our marriage" like you think. My goal right now is to try to love myself and to change for the better every day. I need my children around me in order to feel whole. They are the only family I have.'
