The changed reply sounds awesome. It is funny (not in a ha ha type way though) that our Ws want us to take responsibility for how bad things are, but are unwilling to allow us an responsibility for making things better
They are playing the blame game to justify their actions, why can't they "Blame" us for trying to do things that build the relationship? Maybe that is a tactic - blame them for doing nice things, or maybe "apologize" for your own positive actions. Not sure it will work - but since she wants your active participation in the breakup, maybe active acknowledgement of positive actions? I expect those actions will weigh heavily on her chest, since they are contrary to her goal of ending the M. So maybe this whole thing is a good sign that in her own alien way, she is reevaluating her decision to end the M.
