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[Barrybran]

I don't know what to think at the moment, LFW. If there is someone on the scene, it would make her a hypocrite so between that and the move, I genuinely don't believe there is someone else. I do feel that she felt pressured by me and that she's overreacted accordingly. Where the truth lies may take some time to uncover.

It's a shame about her behaviour. I was going to buy her flowers for her first day in her own store in a couple of weeks time. Not as a pursuing thing but as a "we are your family and we support you" thing. Her behaviour of late makes me question why I would bother though I do want to 'live and love through' it because that's who I want to be rather than doing things because she 'deserves' or 'doesn't deserve' them. It's a fine line at the moment, that's for sure. If I do it, I would feel comfortable doing it because its celebrating her and her achievements rather than our relationship, even though I'm certain it wouldn't be taken that way. I'd have a clear conscience anyway.

As for the invitation pic, it was an event we we're both going to and my wife is quite creative. I knew there was a chance that she could be negative about it but I didn't think she would take it down that path and I got that call wrong. It's not an issue I can really avoid as my wife is still talking about going on the holiday though she's talking about not going to the wedding. I've left it alone for a while as we've got bigger fish to fry at the moment. Right now, I'm not comfortable with her joining us but it'll create waves if I say anything plus it's still several months away and things could improve in that time.

As for the finances, I'm on the weak side now. My wife's job is quite lucrative and I won't get by without her support or government support. She's told me she won't leave me in the lurch but she is so difficult to talk to that I've left her alone and tried to figure things out for myself. This morning, she transferred a substantial sum back into my account, which she has access to, and spoke about the bills in a joint fashion. There was a tense moment as she was asking me questions only she had answers to. When she started getting short with me, I called her out on it saying that I could only help if I had information to work with. From there, she started communicating more positively and answering questions I had. So in a nutshell, we're looking after finances together but how and for how long, I don't know.