Thanks Georgiabelle. I do feel it's important that the kids spend time with their mother and vice versa, however my issue is that W just expects them to do what she says and how she handles it.
First, she doesn't run her planned time with the kids by me. She'll text S15 (because she doesn't want to talk to me) and tell him when she's picking them up. She pretty much takes them every weekend (because they don't want to stay there during the week), which is not only unfair to me but unfair to the kids. I dont protest too much because I understand. But the kids want to spend their weekend playing with friends in the neighborhood, not watching tv at W's. I know- we need to agree on a set schedule, but until she's willing to discuss it with me...
And secondly, her refusal to talk to me puts the kids in the middle. When she stopped by earlier to pick them up, S15 was literally the middle man between W and D10- 'mom said you can't have sleepover if you don't go...' Then S15 and D10 get in to an arguement- 'I don't want to go'...'c'mon, mom said you have to go..' That's not the first time that's happened and forces me to step in to resolve.
My view on it is that times like these cause W to see the consequences of her choices and she doesn't like it.
