Help - I want my sparkle back

[LouR]

As for me at the moment - I would like some advise if possible.

I have not had any contact with him for 3 weeks, he knows I am leaving the country and at the time our s18 was coming with me. I leave in 4 weeks time, he is under the impression its a permanent move and I am only coming back Feb 2016 to see my S21 and for a wedding.

But as things have changed and S18 is now staying I have decided to return to NZ earlier to most likely live for a while - I think just need time out and space.

So my questions are :
Do I contact him before I go to say goodbye?
If yes, what do I say.

Do I tell him I am back when I return?

Do you think me leaving will have an affect on him - what should I expect and how do I deal with it.

I don't want to do or say something that will cause problems or stress for me or him. I want him to feel safe coming to me when he needs it, but I also need to protect myself from more hurt. This MLC thing is a minefield !!

I do hope that one day our paths may cross again, but for now I know I need to stand back and allow him to work though his own journey and I need to keep moving forward on mine.

Sorry I don't use abbreviations - I have just copied them all so will start to learn them - more homework :o) xx