Thank you Cadet - That's my weekend distractions taken care of !!
I have started wading through them and have learnt a lot. So much of it makes sense and its like looking at pages from my journals. I especially like reading from those who have been through a MLC - from their point of view and experience - its still hard to have empathy for my H but I am starting to get a better understanding of what he is going through himself.
One person said - if you think your MLC'er is happy, your wrong. That is hard to imagine when he tells me he is happy, the happiest he has ever been. He appears to be happy when he is out enjoying all the things he has always wanted to do, having the life he has always wanted to have and being with someone who makes him feel all gooey inside. How on earth is that him being unhappy, whether it is false or not, he is still having those moments of joy and happiness while I am left to pick up the pieces and try to make sense of what has just happened to my marriage and husband. Sorry - just winds me up thinking about it.
The description of what the OW tends to be like is so true in my case, she is damaged and insecure herself - a doormat, someone he can control. I don't know if she is a "keeper" or not for him. Only time will tell.
