If I am not in a committed or serious R, then I will at least hear her out. I promised her Mom I would. See if she has conquered or at least got her demons under control. See what she has learned, see if she has done the work.
My biggest concern would be (at the moment), that she would "run" again in some fashion, whether eating disorders, obsession with psychic/new agey stuff, other men, internet addiction, or physically, again, when things got less than easy/fun. Because all those are escape/avoid tactics, imo.
If I am in a serious or committed R? Hmmm... I would probably want to hear her out, whether out of curiosity, closure or validation (ego), I'm not sure, but probably all 3.
Would I? That I would have to wrestle with at the time. Assuming I have properly done my work on myself, and connected with another person who has as well.... why would I look back?
I'll figure it out then if that ever happens.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
