People do what people do. I.e. they do the best they can with the tools they have at the time they have to. Does that make them broken? Perhaps. Maybe it just makes them human. Who can judge?
What often sets MLC aside is the idea that they "quickly" do things radically different then they did before. Like they are searching for a different way and have opposite values to what they previously professed. Like it's a life or death pursuit. Like they had been pretending before and now it's the real them without the "mask". For example, they might have been in a self-reported fulfilling relationship and family for 20+ years and suddenly they feel they are not happy. They go on to feel they were never happy and create a "crisis" of some sort possibly as a way to stop the free-fall. They do what they do with the tools they have at the time they have them.
Is it really "quickly"? Some say yes, others no. Experience varies. But the cause is almost always internal to the person. The trigger might be something external. The crisis seems to be similar to many likely because there are just so many ways you can interact with others.
Becoming human is a tough journey. Creating a crisis is optional of course, but it seems to go hand in hand. So does lying, cheating, etc. The underlying motivation is never clear... until/if it is.
Why do people do what they do? Why do they lie, cheat, steal, hurt others intentionally? <shrug> Reasons vary.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
