Wow your pastor seems to really have a grasp on the situation.
I can understand where he was coming from in regards to encouraging you there was going to be a divorce and it was time to accept it.
As I continue my path, I really can see how reconciliation would have to follow the sequence in which your pastor has stated. Divorce, re marry, divorce again, with the hopes of total clarification of the choices he's made. However, if it ever does get to that point, you must consider where you will be at that point in time.
I can possibly see this happening with my XH. However, I don't have any desire to reconcile with him as a couple. I would really like to clear the air and talk about things, but so much water has gone under the bridge, I really can't see us more than good friends.
