Newcomer Living in Hell 2

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maybell,
if she invites me to do things with the family should i do them? reason i ask is whenever we are all together it provides a contrast for her in the kids behavior, my behavior, and that she can be relaxed around me. she actually has a good time (ie the vacation). this D is gonna happen. you know how you women folk are when you have a long time to make a plan. i have however, begun to detach somewhat and i'm not looking for ways to "save" her. i'm still kind but not falling all over myself to prove myself to her. like today, i'm gonna have the kids tonight, tomorrow night, mon night, and tues night. i want them for sun night but she said she want to see them as she is working the other nights. i just said we can talk about it.
she then said "what about us taking them to see Santa on Sun". i said sure sounds great and asked if she wanted dinner while we were there. she replied that it was a awesome plan.

she also wanted to verify that i would still be able to make the Christmas eve dinner reservation (my schedule changed).

my kids have also been telling me that she needs to be nicer to me and have been telling her that too. my D said that she told W that she needs to kiss me. thanks guys!

i'm definitely not pushing her on anything right now. no texts, calls, or stop bys. no R talks at all. the friend stuff is a definite bug up my as* though. she has a tendency to reflect those that she is close to and these are not quality people.

even S said that W is not the same person she used to be and its like her and i switched brains. ah the wisdom of an 8 year old. he's also getting pissed that she's making a habit of working 4 days a week and then on one of her off nights, getting a babysitter for them so she can go out. he's mentioned several times that he glad that he can always depend on me.