Fiercely independent, not a crier, not vulnerable and you love Almond Joys? Am I looking in a mirror? Do you like skittles??:)I'm positive we would be friends IRL. I can't tell you how many women tell me I'm just like their xBF or xH.I'm not a vet, and I can count on one hand the number of times I had cried prior to BD. And any crying since then has been at my children being hurt. That makes me furious and want to go all teenage mutant ninja turtle on x Mr GB. However, I realize that's a waste-just like you have. Not the person you want to be and an energy drain.
I think showing vulnerability is a good thing -period. If this isn't natural for you (and it isn't for me), it can be a very difficult 180. However, I think it's good for your Rs moving forward-regardless of who you are with. I struggle with this. My natural inclination is to either a) push them away or b) say "whatevs". I don't have an answer for you as it can be such a challenge. Right now, I have a giant wall I've built up-even larger than the one I had before. It isn't a healthy thing.
Hang in there. You are doing great with your girls and your interactions with your h. Focus on you. Who do you want to be? You are getting there.
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 11/15/1403:21 AM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
