Hi T^2, your story is not only compelling but inspiring to all of us for how well you handled yourself during the long battle, and thru all that was thrown at you. There are some gaps for those of us who are reading this after the fact, and if you will permit me, I would like to ask some questions:
- has your W reached out to you during the divorce process?
- is there any part of your story where you think things may have turned out otherwise if something was done differently?
- on 12/11/2013 you wrote that you "always worried about quitting right before the finish and also worried about hanging on too long." I know your W made the final decision to end the m, but looking back would you have ended this any earlier if you had to do it all over again?
- I see two major turning points in your description. First, on 2/10/2014, you found your W's note saying "Find true love", and you carpet-bombed her with many "truth darts". Do you know when this note was written?
- why do you feel that this note hit you so hard?
- what do you think was the ultimate impact on your R of your confronting your W after finding the note?
- The 2nd turning point was when your W decided on the 2 month separation. Why do you think she asked for this?
- Did you see any other women during 2014?
What strikes me about your sitch is how many times you mentioned progress, her coming out of the tunnel, her opening up to you, initiating convos, sharing her feelings, texting "sending you a hug", and you saw your W trying. I know your W ended this, but do you think more time could possibly have resulted in a different result?
Thank you for sharing this amazing story, and any insights you care to share looking back.
