I totally agree with you about wanting your spouse to feel uncomfortable. I don't feel like my H should be able to have the whole family experience. Plus it's going to be very awkward. But I realize including him will provide an opportunity for me to show him any positive changes I have made. So I go back and forth on this issue. One day I am sure I want him here for Thanksgiving and Christmas and the next day I totally do not want him to join us.
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
