I thought everything was okay...

[Mozza]

I took off the ring after she left home, 9 days after BD. It pains me and I miss it. I resist the urge to put it back on, just for a minute. I don't even look at it. My wife never worn hers consistently: it's one of many rings for her. I can't even say I noticed, but I guess she wasn't wearing it for weeks before the BD.

I think your biggest task is the reconciliation. Do what works. I suspect it's better to take off the ring because, on your finger it means, "I'm trying to woo you back", something we're trying not to repeat constantly. Then again, let's see what others have to say.