Wanted to stop in and post, I've been lurking but not posting lately. Seems like she has lost her mind. I really like the taping idea just for the sake of having her listen to what she is actually saying. I know a lot of people have found this helpful for themselves when they actually hear how they behave. Video taping I think hits home harder. That of course is all in the context of her being somewhat receptive to listening or watching, like in front of people she feels accountable to like inlaws, priest, counselor, or kids and family.
As for the legality of it, very little experience in that area. Aren't you a lawyer? Could you ask one of your work associates or someone that specializes in that area?
Couple of thoughts for you and I'm sure Laurie will have more and much better thoughts. From reading your thread it seems you have been very accomadating and understanding, almost always even in the worst of her tirades. Have you always been this way? Is this a 180 for you from your behavior prior to the S? I guess my point is the two of you seem to be in a vicious circle and how do you break it?
I recall you stating that you almost always gave in to the wishes of your W. What would happen if you took a firm stand for yourself? What would happen if you firmly stated you will no longer be treated this way and you and your kids deserve better than this? Point out all the things you have been doing and her unappreciative tantrums. Not angrily but firmly. You may have already done this?
