Didn't mean to pass you over; I tried to reply on your thread, but I guess it was locked out. Things sounding great for you. I think goal-setting works, but you have to establish a proper time horizon. For the time being, I've given up on short-term goals (i.e., one week or two) and literally try to set hour-by-hour--or better yet, interaction by interaction goals. For example, when we went to dinner Saturday night, I established three goals: 1) be as patient as possible with the kids/teach don't yell; 2) Do not allow W to goad me into a fight; and 3) Keep myself as engaged as animated as possible with the kids to to facilitate 1 and 2. Setting ongoing goals is hard, but gets easier if you do it consistently.
I like your taping idea. I've thought of snoop taping to get a handle on OM--I know I'm not supposed to be thinking of that, but I confess that knowing what's going on there (EA interaciton still going on) helps me to understand where W's mind might be at--and could buy me patience. Another thing (OM in general) to ask Laurie.
Briget and Betsey, as always, just seeing your thoughts gives me a lift. DBB, you seem to be getting the hang of this. Brigid, if you're anything near Tampa, if my Islanders play Tampa Bay in the playoffs, maybe I'll have to come down and take you to a game and show you what it's all about!!! Have a great day!