Trying to stay patient- part 7

[Mozza]

I think I know what you are saying Mozza, but I had to read it a couple of times. At first, I had the same reaction as Drew. Maybe b/c you said something about the LBH needing to prove he could be trusted, and being worthy of her. I think it may be in how you worded it?

It's possible. As you know, English is not my first language. But I do mean that the LBH needs to be trusted, not in the sense that he'll tell the truth about his whereabouts, but that he'll provide to his W what she needs, as he promised in his wedding vows. In my case, my W stopped trusting that I would connect with her and encourage her. She gave up on me. My actions spoke louder than my words.

So, instead of being outraged that my W lied to me, I realize that she did it for her own survival. That my breaking the trust with her is what lead her to start lying to me in order to secure the supply of love she wasn't getting from me. What else am I supposed to expect from her? Starvation? It's not like she didn't try to tell me before.

I use my sitch as an example, but I hope it provides some inspiration for others.