Care to elaborate? I'm curious. I wonder if it's a misunderstanding or a real disagreement.
Maybe I'm misreading but to me it sounded like it's all the LBS's fault.
You read that correctly. I'm not sure it's the truth, but I suggest it's the most useful angle right now. We can say "My WAW lied and there's no excuse for it." but we can also ask "Why did she lie?" Is she a compulsive liar? Perhaps. But in my case, I see that my W was cornered in a place where she wasn't receiving the love she needed, much like she needs water. I had trapped her and would deny her thirst and water. Then she saw someone with water. Her pleas to me had fallen on deaf ears, so she started by taking a sip, it tasted good and it grew into the full-blown R that she has with OM now. She had a choice to let me know early, lose her access to OM and likely be shut down even more by me or at least return to the dry land of our M. Why wouldn't she do what she needed to fulfill her emotional needs? It's survival. Wouldn't you lie to your jailer to get out of jail? I was no longer a lover to her, I was her emotional prison warden. I'm not sure I can call that selfish.
I'm honestly curious. What's your angle? Never lie, whatever the reasons?
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
