On the brink, need a miracle

[Onguard]

My WW wrote me a letter today informing me that she has found a place to live and will be moving out next week. Here are some of the main points she also wrote:

Feels that this is a neccesary step if we are going to have any chance of R.

She is sick of my spying on her and asking her questions when she is out late.

She needs to step away and does not want to feel angry anymore.

She does not want us to communicate about our R for 30 days. Basically, only communicate about the kids or business by text or email.

Cannot go back to the M for the wrong reasons, fear, security, finances, history.

She needs to feel what life would be like without me.

She will not be dating and is not doing this to be with other men in any way.

Doing this makes everything real. It is bringing up emotions that have been buried and that is a good thing.

She wants us to start 2015 either fully together or fully apart.


I have not responded and was hoping to get some advice before I do. Or even if I should respond. I have said a while ago that if she left the house that I was going to pursue D. I only said it once but I'm sure she remembers it. I also feel like this is a step against the M, not towards it. She says she is hoping that the distance will stir up positive feelings for me. Part of me thinks that it makes some sense but another part of me is saying, don't be an idiot, she is looking to create more time and space to see either her AP or a potential OM2. (again, lots of nights out with single friends and coming home between 3-4am)