Not that there is a point to all this, but the best possible thing for your long-term goals is for your STBX to see you don't NEED him. An independent, "together", rali is going to be way more attractive than one who is cycling through wacky emotions. Asking him for something for your D6, saying thank you, and moving on is as normal as it gets right now.
I think we need MANY of these kinds of interactions to even have a chance that the WAS will start resetting/reconsidering his/her current mindset. They already know we want to make marriage work.
Thanks Shakes....I guess I wonder about this. I've always been independent and not needy. The day of the BD (which was done by note) I sat in stunned silence for 15 minutes and then immediately went into survival mode and put together a plan for how to keep the house etc. I still haven't cried.
I can't help but notice that his first mistress had just been dumped by her husband and was in need of "rescuing" (I don't know the story with the current one). It makes me wonder if he wants someone who is needier and more vulnerable. Is that a guy thing? Regardless, I'm not capable of being a needy mess, so I guess its a moot point.
