I thought everything was okay...

[Mozza]

I don't know what behaviors she has, but you've got to make the difference between what you want to control and what really hurts the children. I think my W is doing a few things wrong with the kids, but it's down to different parenting styles. She's starting to pay the price, but I'm not stepping in. Yes, my kids might be worse off in certain cases, but I'm not a perfect dad either. And I don't want her to meddle or criticize me. There are tons of parents out there and we do our best. Sometimes it means dropping them off for long hours, feeding them cookies for lunch, skipping bath time, coming down too hard on them, etc. I know I'm easily irritated when someone questions my parenting style. And some people become very self-righteous when it comes to children, as if nothing short of perfection is acceptable because... THINK OF THE CHILDREN!

Again, only you know what your limits are and you know better what she does. Believe none of what she says, half of what you see. But think real hard about what would happen if you don't step in (is it really that bad?), and whether you're not trying to control her with this excuse. Remember it because it may be taking you further away from offering what's the best for your kids: a united household.

And I also can't wait to see what are the differences that 25yearsmlc sees in our WAWs. I'd add though that I've neglected my W's emotions big time too. See here: she's articulate and open and I shut her down. Also, see a list of reasons why she left me. It was a month ago and my thinking has evolved a little, mostly to encompass her official reasons.