"Additionally, I know that she only had this party jointly so she could show everyone else how well we were gettin along. She feeds on public approval and after her actions this summer she felt she lost a lot of people's respect. She was trying to pull off the perfect party to win it all back. This is NOT mind reading. She told me this directly on several occasions. The problem with this is that things AREN'T fine between us, and I resented the idea of having to bury my pain and play like everything's happy when I can't support her decisions."
I am having the exact same issue bud. Wife feels guilty about the D, so she wants to make it look like it was a mutual decision. She wants us to have Sunday "family" dinner together, go to church together, celebrate Christmas together, etc. it had nothing to do with possible reconciliation, it is all about her appearances. Cake eating. Maybe at some point I can act happy around her and resume DBing that way, but right now I am just limiting interaction so I can detach.
Me:42 W:41 M:12 T:3 D7, D7, S5 Sep#1 Winter 2012 for 4 months W divorce bomb 6/9/14 Started "in-house separation" 7/2014 W files for D 8/28/14 I move out 9/27/14
