Raliced - Climbing Without a Rope

[HPoirot]

Not that there is a point to all this, but the best possible thing for your long-term goals is for your STBX to see you don't NEED him. An independent, "together", rali is going to be way more attractive than one who is cycling through wacky emotions.

I know you're right about that Shakspr... but, for me, not feeling that need is the especially tough part. How long did it take for that feeling to get manageable for you? I'm hoping quick.