In short, my take is that it's all one big lie: she was no longer committed to you, while pretending to be. She was taking her time to come to a point where she could tell you, but your M was already over. She had lost her loyalty to you and would tell you things only to get her way. You can sweat the individual lies, or realize that they're all connected, they're all the same. Go back to the point where you think she disconnected, and that's when the lies started. Because there was this one big thing that she couldn't tell you. And once she told you, there was no point going back to come clean: she was moving on.
Now, our challenge is to become trustworthy again, and that means to be worthy of their love. That day, they will start telling us truth they wouldn't share with their OM. I know it sounds weird to say that they are the liars and we are not trustworthy, but it's about WHY they started lying to us: we just didn't deliver in the love and M departments.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
