Finances - he agreed to give me all the proceeds from the house (which I have already hidden in a savings account), child support until Dec and has kept me and s18 housed, fed and bills pd until I leave in Dec. To be honest he has no money, he is in big debt already, taken out a loan for ....a car ... and I have just discovered he stopped his pensions years ago so has no retirement plan now. I have talked to a solicitor and my dad (who is really clued up on anything financial) about spouse support and after weighing up all the pros and cons I have decided to keep the money he has given me and walk away. I just want it over, not dragged through courts, not risk him not paying me, quitting his job, filing for bankruptcy or various other things he can do to get out of paying me. To accept support from him means I am tied to him. I would rather walk away. I can do this on my own. I don't need him - By not accepting his help, I will have done this on my own.
I live in NZ so not sure the same laws apply as US.
