So I've decided to not go forward with finishing up our divorce. I can do this, I can stand for our marriage - today, I can do this.
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
Yes you can. It will help you if you start to understand why. I see my friends here have been posting to you about love...
I would venture to guess this may be testing every limit you know about the word.
And if you have not been humbled by this yet then I hope that happens soon for you.
You are here because your W is in crisis. That may be hard to remember at times...
What you do about it is YOUR choice. To choose to be a victim or to move forward on a path of Your own choosing.
Some words to think about:
How would you want to be loved when you are in a crisis?
When you are so scared you reject your family and your vows.?
When you are so confused you behave in ways that are hurtful to yourself and others you love?
When your mind is full of chaotic thoughts?
When does your W most need you to love her?
When she is calm and peaceful? Settled and sure?
That is the easy part....
So the question...
How would you want to be loved?
What does love mean for you?
First, thank you so much Jack, whytry, Truegritter, and AJ, your encouragement and support is a help to me.
I thought Truegritter's questions were rhetorical. But because AJ thinks I should actually answer them, I will.
How would I want to be loved, if I was in crisis, scared, if I was confused, and if life was chaotic? I would want to be loved unconditionally, without judgment, and with a self-giving, self-sacrificial love.
Yes, my W needs me to love her now more than ever. And you have shown me that I should be giving my W the same kind of love that I would want if my life was turned upside down ("unconditionally, without judgment, and with a self-giving, self-sacrificial love").
So that is what love means to me. Thanks for helping me to begin opening my eyes.
