I thought everything was okay...

[jim0987]

I think in my case the fear is that I can be quite cutting in my defensive sarcasm and she felt I was chipping away at her self esteem. I'm guessing but I think I would just tear her down some more.

I sulk more than get angry

There are few things that she was really sensitive about and I'm starting to realise that may well have been because she was feeling guilty.