I wasn't going to post until later tonight, but W just sent me an e-mail (I kept kicking her phone calls to VM--and she left no messages).
In effect, she said that she was retaining an attorney tomorrow and wanted to know where the atty should send any info. She also wanted to know what my atty's retainer was so she could try and negotiate a lower fee. She added that her brothers' kids are in FL today,and her mother remarked how differently they behave than our kids--and my W attributed the problem to our R which must be ended to put her and the kids on a healthy path. (choke, choke).
I should have checked here first, but I called home. VM kicked in and I left a message saying that I had not retained an attorney and that any materials could be sent directly to me--at which time I'll decide my next course of action. I added that I was sorry that she felt this was the way to go, but that she should spend whatever amount of money she feels is necesssary to improve our situation.
Was this an okay message? At this point, I'll just concede the five grand and worry about what actually happens in our R. Previously, I've gotten all uptight when she has seen her attorney. This time, I will be as cool as can be. Her parents are coming home from their winter break in Florida this weekend, so the dynamics at home will become very iteresting because they are highly involved with us and our kids.
I confess the PMA has taken a blow to the gut, but I am much stronger now and W must now bear the entire brunt of moving forward with D alone instead of reconciliation. This is her D, not mine.
