Can I also add without sounding defensive that I honestly believe that he is somewhat of a narcissist, and that my agreeing with the S (and most likely D) will ease his conscience about the whole thing. He's not the bad guy if I want this too.
How would you feel if he said this to you because you're so keen to keep the marriage? Just because you have the moral high ground doesn't mean some of the motivations might not be similar.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
Just because you have the moral high ground doesn't mean some of the motivations might not be similar.