Sandi - I agree it needs to be addressed but his problem is more of not telling me until I ask.. He says he forgets if he doesn't tell me right at the time and he doesn't want to bother me while I'm at work. So I ask a lot of things but need a long term solution on how for him to let me know of things without me asking. Any thoughts?
Wounded - yes we have ALOT going on, that's always been the theme of our life hence the stress. The lawsuit is actually a good thing but still time consuming and mine alone to deal with. It's against our home insurance company for refusing to cover a claim from 2 years ago in the amount of 20k that we had to come out of pocket. So it has been stressful. But I just got word this week that the insurance is willing to settle. It's not exactly what we wanted but I'm willing to take a small cut just to be done and avoid trial. So it will be good to re cooperate what has been spent and cross the lawsuit off the list.
The bathroom and kitchen remodel is slow and steady and yes me being done with my second job cuts a LARGE amount of money coming in. But finances are separated and we split everything 50/50 so we both have enough to cover bills. He took a pay cut so he isn't making as much as he was and won't have enough to save each month but it should be temporary for him. I'm making enough to live comfortably and save a little each month. I'm also still picking up 1-2 extra shifts a month which brings in a pretty decent amount.. I've paid all my credit cards off so beyond my car loan and mortgage I'm debt free guess working all those crazy hours during our S paid off. H on the other hand acquired a lot of debt but that's on him and he's working on paying it off.
We do have money in investment accounts and the boys college is prepaid. We aren't rich by any means. However finances have been an issue for us before BD because I want to be saving money and planning for a rainy day/future and H doesn't seem to manage money very well. He does a lot of frivolous spending. So in all we are both working on paying all of our debt off. We are really hoping to refinance our house soon because we bought when I was 18 and the market was way better so our interest rate is high but we are slightly upside down. So we are stuck which stinks! Anyway. Sorry for the tmi about finances. Hopefully you understand a little better
guess working all those crazy hours during our S paid off. H on the other hand acquired a lot of debt but that's on him and he's working on paying it off. 
