Hi 2B, it’s great to hear you are in such a peaceful place with H and you sitch. It is so very important for us to get there. Great job, I’m impressed!
Originally Posted By: 2B
I feel so much better when NOT thinking about my M or H, not worrying about the what if's.
Hyper focus on the M can burn us out. Sometimes we need to just let go of it all and enjoy the rest of our life.
As long as the couple can still get along fine, an in house separation can be better for so many reasons. Finances, friendship and someone to share the chores with are a few. I believe it also allows more possibilities for R too. I know I really prefer it in our sitch. Obviously W does too.
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I have let my H know that soon I will be making a decision about this M, I just wanted to give him a heads up, that soon I may be leaving....
I told him I don't want him to rush to make his choice/decision, but that does not mean I will not make my choice to decide what I want/need, and it may be to be totally free of this M, so I can truly move on.”
What was H’s response to this?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
