Mindsink - pt. 5 (The Home Stretch)

[mindsin]

I went out last night with a close friend. We had a great dinner at a Mexican place, followed by going to the movies. We saw Interstellar (which btw, I thought was great). The themes in the movie, as usual, hit home, as they centered around human relationships, love, meaning of life, etc.

My W was totally OK with me going out, and in fact, I've noticed that she NEVER makes a stink about me going out. Her response is always "sure", or "of course", or something to that effect.

This is also the 1st time in a long while that I sought her approval while asking. In the beginning, I think I had some resentment inside when I simply told her that I'm going out. Why? Because she's been doing the same thing to me. I figure if I want this dynamic to change, then I'm the one who needs to make the first move. So, I will give her the same courtesy as I 'hope' that she will give me in return. I will not assume that I can simply take off, leaving her by herself with the kids.

I texted her: "I plan on going out tonight. I should be back by 11:00. Is this OK with you, schedule-wise?"

She responded, "sure".

Later that night, she texted me that the kids are in the master bedroom watching a movie and hopefully they fall asleep soon, and that she will be sleeping in the basement. She asked when I'm coming home.

When I came home, I walked by her quietly as she was sleeping on the couch, walked into the kitchen to take my vitamins. She said "hi" in a very soft voice. It scared that crap out of me! I didn't say hi back. After I took my vitamins, I went back over to her, tucked the blanket up higher over her shoulder and kissed her on the head. It's the 1st time I kissed her (anywhere) in a very long time. I don't know if she noticed or not, and I'm not sure why I decided to. I was partly inspired by the movie I think.

This morning, I woke up early and made her a breakfast sandwich. She was kind of stunned when I told her I made her a sandwich for the road. She took it and said "thanks". But then noted that I should have turned the exhaust fan on while cooking the eggs because the whole house smells now.