Don't know if I belong here....

[Okabe]

Hi Wet,
It's not that I often mind cooking, cleaning, etc. But it seems more and more things that she once did are getting left for me to take care of. I don't know if this is a symptom of her being very focused on school or a subtle dig at me (which as I write this I realize I am mind-reading by putting my emotions into what she is (not) doing). What bothers me mostly is that it is taken for granted. There is no "thank you" or appreciation. Perhaps there never will be and I have to resolve myself to that.
There are however some things I feel that she should not shirk. She complained how we didn't go camping last year because I didn't plan it. So in my rush to fix things I said we'd go on 3 trips next year. One with friends which we'll all plan together and 2 with the family. I got dates chosen and planned one of the trips and realized: she never plans a trip yet they are important to her, but I do all the research and reserving of sites etc. So I told her since I did one that she can take care of the other.
Christmas gifts to her family out of state. I buy them and ship them every year. I think she can take care of that.
She has told me multiple times how the van needs an oil change, but I rarely have time to take it in: she does.
I find that she will defer things to me to do. She often has a logical reason why she doesn't do it, but it often puts more on my plate.
I will have to think about what boundaries I need to start to draw for myself.
She is an adult and she can take care of things.