I read something today from the Author of The Abandoned Wife Syndrome.
I hope every woman here reads it, though it can pertain to husbands as well.
What I found interesting was the issue of these men doing an about face in personality! Doing completely opposite of what you know them to be or to do or even like for that matter!
What I read was that these run away husbands (MLCers, WAH) have the "tendency" to really identify with the women that are in their lives at the time, and actually try to mold into what they want. This is because their identity is wrapped up in the women they're with, therefore they start doing, saying and acting like the OW or doing things just to please them.
Now, we've always talked about how they've jumped on the mother ship and have been abducted by aliens because the people we knew before are GONE.
This new behavior I've witnessed with XH as well have been told about by the girls has just baffled me. Plus his reasoning and irrationality when the MLC started going into full swing, I just couldn't believe the idea's in his head! The accusations, reasoning (or lack of), and his reactions to things, were just not him!
I always felt that he was getting pumped up by OW, and getting his head filled with lies. It would make sense because he was attatching his new identity with her!
Granted I want to say I think I might be seeing a little bit of the old XH from time to time, I really can't ever be sure.
