Merrick buddy, I agree withn Christine, Dont sell yourself short. I have to tell you Merrick, being back in the singles scene myself at our age women are not as interested as much in how we look as to what your made of inside. Its not thre same as when you were 23 or whatever, its alot different now. Women seem to be more aggressive to a guy that has character and is responsible. Remember there are alot of women out there who got the
D because there H was "gone fishing" and they just lost it for them. We are not the normal D people I dont think. While we were helping with the kids and doing our share of help around the house, our W found someone else. There are women out there who would kill for a man as loyal and devoted as you are Merrick. While you may not feel as though you can love like that again you would be surprised what will be around your corner. Your a good guy with a huge heart. Hell Id marry ya if you were not so damn short. We are going to have to hook up for that Yankee game come summer with Christine. I bet she is a hottie.

As for the warning, I would hope your W wouldnt go as far as the restraining order, I just mean to watch out you dont give her an excuse. I think mine was looking all along for a good excuse to leave. She figured I would have to get laid or something and would not wait for her. All she had was such silly things to complain about me that eventually when I did find a hottie to talk to on the phone she reacted with vengence in that this was her excuse. The axe dropped and she had an excuse to kiss my a$$ good bye. Justification in her mind. Although she new it was a stretch she could tell all "I" had someone else. Her guilt was cleared. Be careful. We are some good guys and I think in some respects they know it and it makes there decission all the tougher. she is struggling so bad inside because she knows she is screwing up but cant let the OM be. He is like the devil sitting on her shoulder telling her what a shmuck you are. Inside she knows its wrong but her mind, being in the infatuation mode, is telling her to go to him. KOFTGF. You are a good man and the women will find you irresistable. Your story will melt most womens hearts. They will think what a fool she was to leave such a good hearted man.

Oh and by the way as ussual your story is following mine to a tee. My W also complained about giving for the church. I am convinced they are twins or something. They go to bible studies and all the other things but insist on giving less? Its the guilt inside of them over what they are doing,. The church and its beliefs are also standing inthere way. My W has said she will switch religions rather than get an anullment. She says Lutheran is close to caotholic and she doesnt like that women are not more equall in the catholic church. More justification to make her story more believable to her self. If they keep telling it to themselves sooner or later it is truth. God BLess,Eddy