Now I believe this is important. If her LL happens to be Acts of Service, where would you rank? She may see you helping as acts of service, and therefore, speaking love to her in the language she understands.
I still need to go back and re-read LL, but I don't think acts of service is her LL, I think most of her resentment centered just around her feeling she was pulling more weight. Reason being, I'm always doing projects/improvements around the house. When she was gone for a week (the week she was trying to set up with OM) I renovated a room in the house. During a rant from her in a counseling session, she spewed all over the fact that she didn't like how I renovated it and it was inconsiderate of me to renovate it because she didn't think it needed it. I know....believe nothing with what they say.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
And speaking of moods........I have to talk out my stress, too. But if you talking about the day at work seems to go south for the rest of the family, is there someone else you could talk to as you are driving home? Then you could get it out of your system by the time you got home.
Well, I already 180'd this. Now I just talk about stresses at home to people at work
Seriously, this is a piece of cake to change, in fact rearranging my priorities since BD, work is pretty far down the list and I find myself not caring to talk about it with anyone anymore. Even so, I didn't really need to release it to her, I just look back now and see that is what I did. At the time, I thought she cared and was interested in it. Not that she wouldn't want me to say anything, but I'm sure she wanted other conversations instead. I would always try to get her to tell me about her day and she never was really interested in saying anything. I guess I should have taken the hint.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
