Wonka, Sort of makes sense. We have a parenting plan that's just drafted. He's resisted every step of the way having anything set in writing. (He's used the phrase, "I think we can figure things out ad-hoc as they come up". In his black and white thinking, he sees that having an agreement in writing means there is no "flexibility", despite the fact that I've assured him repeatedly that a default agreement is just that-- we will always be flexible when we can, but there is a fall back plan in case we can't reach consensus.
It is probably time to deal with the finances... to sell the apartment (I dont want to/not sure I'd be able to take on the mortgage myself), this is NOT my dream home by a long shot.... also divide up assets that he is spending on himself and other women. Maybe it will become more real for him when he agrees to write me a check for thousands of dollars a month and give me half of nearly everything he has. Maybe I will move my daughter and I into a new apartment before we sell this one so that I don't have to be the one inconvenienced by keeping a "for sale"-level clean apartment and disappear during open houses, etc, while he gets to just walk away. Maybe he will remove the rest of his old books and other crap from our home that he hasn't asked about in a year.
I haven't let go. I'm still so angry. I read MWD'S and Gottman's advice on Twitter or FB and I think, "you d-bag. How could you just walk out on me and never once make any real attempt to repair or rebuild our marriage?"
Jeez. That time of the month and I'm suddenly back to square one. Argh!!
