Thanks Mozza. It is always nice to know it helps someone.
Ha! You're a godsend. I can't believe the generosity of people like you and the other vets who keep coming back here, years after they pieced their M. You're helping us to stay sane, to cope and to apply solutions that work. I can't say enough how grateful I am to all of you. A special thanks to you for your gentle way to get hard truths across. I don't know how you find the balance, but you do.
I've exported more of your wisdom to my thread and responded with stuff specific to my sitch. It's helping me a lot.
MCS: I re-read your entire thread to catch up. I'll continue to keep a close eye on what's going on because, as you wrote on my thread, our sitches have a lot in common. It looks like our way out is to find the causes of our S, work on ourselves and see if our W get out of the fog and find us. Your interactions are not as good as mine, but your wife's affair seems to be going much worse than that of my W. Let's see what happens. (and please don't stay silent for two weeks again!)
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
