advice needed - please help

[stacey9]

Thanks Raliced, totally agree with what you've said. It is so difficult for the in-laws, but my MIL and SIL have been so supportive this past year, and this has made things very difficult for them with H. He now wants everything sorted out in time for Christmas I think. How can it every be though? This will be my first Christmas without him in about 26 years.

Do you thinks its any easier when the kids are smaller and more adaptable to changes? I'm wondering this as my kids are older and able to judge for themselves - they see their Dad leaving his family for OW and think its just wrong, regardless of how happy he is now. They don't want to spend weekends with him, he has asked them out to dinner several times and they have refused. Of course I have told them they still have to have a relationship with him,he is still their Dad, but I think they are just a bit disgusted with him.

But then I read all your stories about the WAH's spending time with the kids and having them around the OW and that must be heart-rending. It is something I will have to face at some point when my kids decide they will meet with her.

It's totally wrong and not doing me any good at all, but I do wish the bubble would burst and H and OW would start to see each others faults, wake up to reality and see all the pain they've caused.