I'm sorry you are in a difficult place. I'm certainly no expert although there comes a point when it comes to a) protecting yourself financially and b) respect. Look a it this way.....telling your h you love him and want him back will do exactly.........right. Nothing that brings you the results you want. I know you are hurting and I know it sukks. We all do. However, I think you are showing empathy and love by leaving him be. It sounds crazy, however, that is respecting that your h needs to walk this journey and you need to walk yours.
Mini hijack-my h was picking up kids for school one day last week. Smoke was coming out of the hood of his car. When we were m, I would have been anxious and kicked into "get thee to a repair shop mode." I would have taken over and been worried about the costs. However, now I just thought "ex Mr GB is having an automotive woe. Those sure do sukk!" I didn't wish any ill will towards him as automotive issues sukk. I just realized it was no longer my issue to deal with just as when I had a blowout on the highway, I didn't expect him to help.
It's a process. Hang in there and take care of yourself.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
